PARANG PAG-IBIG YAN…YOU HAVE TO TAKE THE RISK (Simple principles in taking the risk for your dreams)

Naglipana nanaman ang bitter sa buwan ng February, maraming tao ang malalim ang pinaghuhugutan, ang iba naman for sure excited na sa araw na ito…and Valentine’s Day. Ang buwan na kung saan mabenta ang bulaklak, chocolates at teddy bear, pero ito din ang araw na gustong kalimutan ng mga nagbibiter-biteran. Well marami na ang nabaliw sa pag-ibig, may tumalon na sa building, nagpasagasa sa tren at ang iba naman pinabayaan ang pangarap dahil lang sa masamang karanasan sap ag-ibig… hirap mag-move on ika nga.

I don’t know if everyone would agree, pero alam ko naramdaman na din ito ng ibang lalaki, na kung ang mga girls ay may “woman’s intuition” meron din kami nun. We have this ability to feel na may pag-asa kami sa babaeng nililigawan namin o wala. In short… magaling kami mag-assume, kaya nga marami pa ding lalaki ang matyagang manligaw, kasi kahit papaano, umaaasa, nag-a-assume na baka sakali dumating ang araw na sagutin din kami.

Hugot…Valentine ’s Day eh

So eto ako si “assumerong frog” date, nag-ipon, nag effort, nagtyaga at na-excite kasi perfect time na siguro para magtanong ng “would you be my girlfriend.” Perfect ang location, maingay pero ang tema tama lang sa isang lalaki na sasagutin ng babaeng minamahal niya… parang lumulutang, so enchanted and magical, parang feeling mo pag in-love ka… enchanted. Alam mo na kung saan? Syempre Enchanted Kingdom! Tulad ng binabanggit ko sa mga talks ko, I have fear in hights, lalo na pag steady tulad ng tulay, tower, roorftop, and ferry’s wheel (ng enchanted Kingdom dahil mabagal lang siya, pahinto-hinto). Pero my date during that time ask me…

“Ferris Wheel naman tayo”

Kakatapos lang naming sa EKstrem Tower ride, at masakit na experience, pero wala akong nagawa kung hindi ang mag tapang-tapangan.

“Sige saan bay un?”

So pumila na kami, namamawis na ang paa ko at palad ko, pero syempre hindi alam ni girl, baka kasi ma-turn off siya. Inisip ko na lang perfect timing na ito, sa taas ako magtatanong kung pwede ko na ba siyang maging girlfriend officially.

Sumakay na kami, at grabe ang kabog ng dibdib ko… nagmumura ang isip ko nun…kamatayan ko na!!! Pero napalitan agad yun ng excitement, sabi ko sa sarili ko this is the moment, umikot na ang Ferris Wheel… bandang 5:30 ng hapon na kami sumakay so nag-aagaw na ang liwanag at dilim. Pag dating sa dulo, medyo umambon pa at lumamig ang hangin… at eto pa ang panalo… may background song pa…

“Ako'y alipin mo kahit hindi alam
Aaminin ko minsan ako'y manhid
Sana at iyong nariring
Sayong yakap ako'y nasasabik”

Hinawakan ko yung kamay niya…

“Alam ko masyado atang mabilis, and I am not expecting na positive ang sagot mo” Pero ang totoo, asang-asa na ako nun.

“Can you be my girlfriend” pabulong pero buong lakas ng loob kong sinabi… sa tuktok ng 130ft na Ferris Wheel ng Enchanted Kingdom.

Tumitig siya sa akin… lumungkot ang mata na parang nalilito (o gusto ako itulak?), nagkibit balikat siya at sinabi sa akin…

“Hindi pa ako ready”

BOOM! Busted si kolokoy! Umuwi kami ng hindi nag-uusap, sumakay siya ng bus pauwi nang hindi na ako nilingon… after nun hindi na kami nagkita. Well pag kinukwneto ko siya nakakatuwa na lang isipin, pero ang totoo… matured na ako nun, in the right age, pero sa edad din na ayaw mapahiya at ma-reject. Depressing… pero yun talaga sa pag-ibig handa ka dapat malugi o tumubo.

So what?

From my real life story, allow me to share some practical principles in entrepreneurship, or as a person pursuing your dream or passion… you need to take the risk. CORMENTIS Co. started by taking the risk, leaving my comfort zone of sure 15^th and 30^th pay check every month, I have a clear vision but no clue kung gaano ba kasakit masktan pag may mga failures na ma-e-encounter. Not to mention yung remarks ng ibang tao na alam kong hindi naniniwala sa negosyong itatayo ko, they are trying to show me na naiintindihan nila an gang desdisyon ko na iwan ang pagiging empleyado para magtayo ng sarili kong company. Pera, pawis, pride, sleepless nights at maraming kape ang puhunan, but today CORMENTIS Co, is making her own name in soft skills training. Malayo pa siguro sa ibang company, pero sobrang layo niya din noong nagsisimula pa lang kami sa consultancy and training business. Today I am getting more than my salary before noong empleyado pa ako, dati ako ang sumusweldo, ngayon ako na ang nagpapasweldo, plus I have my own time to play… kaya I can do speaking engagements, marketing and training consultancy job on the side. Everything germinated and still growing because of the risk I took a year ago.

The F.O.L.L.Y. principle

Here are the principles which I believe I have with me why CORMENTIS Co. is growing on her own realm and game… my FOLLY principle. Yes sometimes you have to think crazy to start building you dream.

F-fearless. Stop procrastinating… get out of the box, jump, take the risk. Walang mangyayari kung puro pangarao lang at plano… ikwento mo na lang yan sa pagong ika nga, dahil hindi mangyayari yan kung hindi mo sisimulan. Yes, bad things will happen, like in CORMENTIS Co. marami kaming seminars and trainings na hindi napansin ng gusto naming audience. But because I made it clear to my mind na ginagawa koi to para sa pamilya ko, and I love this…what I am doing is really me, no reason for me to quit. Today little by little, because of my fearless decision to jump in the uncertain world of entrepreneurship, but with clear vision in my mind… I am harvesting the fruits of my labor. There’s ecstasy after the agony.

O-optimistic. Maraming tao ang may maling perception sa salitang optimism, being optimistic is not a magic formula na pag ginawa mo ay wala nang magyayaring hindi maganda. There are inevitable things that are beyond of our control and if this occur will that optimism spirit will save you? Positive thinking without action is useless, optimism without acknowledging the negative things that may occur is laziness. So, when you take the risk, be optimistic, and to be optimistic start by looking at the negative things that may hinder your success… then plan to avoid it.

L-level your dream. When you set the goal, you must have a clear plan, specific and detailed. You must know the level of your dream if it is doable and humanly possible. Huwag mangarap ng gising ikaw nga, one at a time, I have heard participants of my seminars nap ag tinatanong ko kung ano ang pangarap nila… most often than not they cannot give me exact and clear answer. Have your self-inventory, what do you really want to achieve? When? How? With? How much?

L-love it. You cannot succeed if you don’t love what you are doing. If you are doing business for money alone or above anything else? Forget about it… you are near to failure or if not you compromise a good place in heaven. Can you give the talent you have for FREE? Can you perform for free in the name of charity? Can you delay gratification making designs for free just to build your portfolio and showcase your talent? Can you be a keynote speaker free of charge for a non-profit organization? Well believe me or not, I talked, share, and empower people for more than five without a professional fee. In fact some of my speaking engagements are free. Folly right? Because I love it, and I can assure you when you SERVE first before you EARN….you’ll reap what you sow later on, more than what you have expected.

Y-Yield to God. Gaano man kalaki o katagumpay ang business or negosyo mo, kung lahat ng ito ay para lamang sa sarili nating kapakanan…you are building your house in the wrong lot. At the end of the day, yung ginagawa ba natin will help other people to see and to feel that God exist? Do we help and do something to create a better world?

Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters, since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving.

Colossians 3:23-24

Happy Valentine’s Day!

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